Child Inclusive Mediation

Positive Solutions operates within a Child Inclusive and Child Focused practice model where all information, discussions and agreements reached during mediation are focussed on the best interests of your children. While all discussions in mediation are focused on the best interests of your children, we use two processes to ensure your children’s views and needs are expressed and heard by you as parents; Child Inclusive Practice and Child Focused Practice.

 

What is Child Inclusive Practice?

Child Inclusive Practice involves children from four years of age & up to be included in the mediation process by meeting with a qualified Child Consultant. The Child Consultant meets with your child to gain an understanding of how the separation affects them through age and stage appropriate play and discussion. The Child Consultant will also meet with the parents where, with your child’s permission, their views and feelings will be conveyed and considered

What is the process for Child Inclusive Practice?

Pre-mediation:

You will have a private intake session with a mediator who will explain the mediation process , discuss your parenting issues and options for support for your children.

Mediation:

Once you and your ex-partner have each had a private intake session, your mediator will arrange a mediation session where you, your ex-partner and two mediators will meet. At this session your mediators will discuss Child Inclusive or Child Focussed practice, if considered safe or appropriate. Your mediators will arrange for our administration team to contact you and make a time for your child/children to come to Positive Solutions for an appointment with our Child Consultant. 

Child Consult Session: 

Before you bring your children to Positive Solutions for their child consult session, our Child Consultant will contact you.

When you bring your child/ren to their Child Consult appointment, each child will spend approximately one hour with our Child Consultant in our children's counselling room. 

One-hour child feedback session: 

After the session your child/ren have with our Child Consultant, our mediators will schedule a time for both parents to meet with them and our Child Consultant. During this session, our Child Consultant will provide feedback as to how your child/ren are coping with the separation and provide you with any key messages your child/ren would like you to know. 

 

How can Child Inclusive practice assist in the Mediation process?*

  • Gives your child/children a voice where they are able to safely express their thoughts and feelings on how the separation affects them
  • Assists your child/children with their post separation journey
  • Allows your child/children to inform a decision making process without placing the burden of decision making on them
  • Helps parents to understand and consider their child’s/children’s position and supports the parents to be the best that they can be
  • Ensures that the Mediation process is focussed on the best interests of the child/children
*Further information available on request

Some important things to know about the Child Inclusive session:

  • The session is confidential and permission is needed from your child before their views and feelings are conveyed to you. The Child Consultant will ask your child what they would like Mum and Dad to know.
  • Children are told that even though they tell our Child Consultant what they want, it doesn’t guarantee it will happen. Some decisions are for parents to make and young people’s feelings are considered in this process.
  • The message that you want to include your child in this process because their thoughts and feelings are important to you is reinforced.
 

What is Child Focused Practice?

If your child is too young to speak with our Child Consultant or Child Inclusive practice is considered unsuitable, our Child Consultant can still speak with parents during a Child Focussed session about child development, child and youth issues and assist with age and stage appropriate decisions that are in your children’s best interests. Child Focused Practice ensures the best interests of your children are the focus of your sessions with your mediators

What is the process for Child Focused Mediation?

Pre-mediation:

You will have a private intake session with a mediator who will explain the mediation process, discuss your parenting issues and options for support for your children.

Mediation:

Once you and your ex-partner have each had a private intake session, your mediator will arrange a mediation session where you, your ex-partner and two mediators will meet. At this session your mediators will discuss Child Inclusive or Child Focussed practice, if considered safe and appropriate. Your mediators will arrange for our administration team to make a time for you to meet with them and our child consultant.

Child Consult Session: 

Your Mediators will schedule a one hour where our Child Consultant can provide you with information about child development and strategies to support your child/ren through separation.

To make an appointment to discuss with a Positive Solutions counsellor phone 1800 064 039

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